"Stay at home mommies complaining about how stressful their life is like Texans complaining that it’s ‘so cold’ when it dips below 50"
I think most people took this in a different way than I meant it when I posted it, so I wanted to clarify.
Pretty much all of our problems here in the USA are relative. Of all the people in my newsfeed: none of us struggle with war, death, poverty, hunger…or any of the other needs at the physiological rung of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. You know, the ones that are critical to life. A couple of us struggle with things off the second rung, the “safety” rung because of temporary unemployment, health or housing issues. I’ll place myself here as my daughter’s health is spotty and I am working 3 jobs to maintain our food and housing security. Most of us are also pretty solid with level 3, the “love & belonging” tier. We all have friends and family who love us deeply and most of you, it seems, have a spouse who presumably provides you with sexual intimacy. 95% of the complaints that I see in my Facebook feed are in the top two rungs, which deal with self-esteem and self-actualization.
It is valuable to me, when I am frustrated with my lack of resources - generally time or money - to remind myself that the stress I place on myself is an illusion. I think through my blessings and the fact that my children don’t fear for their lives or safety in our home or schools. I remind myself that no matter how frequently we eat Ramen noodles or beans and rice, at least we are eating 3 meals a day when so many others aren’t afforded that privilege. We have a heated home and an abundance of clean water. I focus on these things and repeat the mantra “my stress is not real” until I feel peaceful again.
Perhaps I should stop with Facebook - because I work hard to keep my own struggles in this perspective and then I come here and see so many people who are complaining and frustrated with such insignificant things. There is a preponderance of stay-at-home moms in my feed who seem to be really dissatisfied with their lives - a life where basically, they are being paid to stay home and love their babies… well, it just kills me. Do you know how many of us would kill for that?
And so, my badly explained statement of “Stay at home mommies complaining about how stressful their life is like Texans complaining that it’s ‘so cold’ when it dips below 50”. The analogy, I still think, is solid. If you rarely know temperatures of 50 degrees, then yes, it seems quite uncomfortable, but you will not die. It is not, actually, cold. The same goes for SAHMs who allow (yes, allow) their lives to be filled with the stress of … I’m not quite sure… the house isn’t clean enough? It was hard to get 3 kids ready for a play date? The husband is away for one night on business? This is not real stress, my friends, it is entirely self-induced.
Because I know that I create much of my own stress, as well, by forgetting to be grateful, I was offering this thought as an encouragement. I deeply apologize if any of you took it as a judgement - it was not meant as such. I cull my friend list regularly and vigorously which means that if you are seeing my posts, I really do love love love you. :) I would just encourage you to remember what you have before you allow this ugly and false dissatisfaction to creep into your life.